“Everything should be done in a ﬁtting and orderly way” (1 Corinthians 14:40). You agree, but you know this passage was not directed at families. It was directed to Christians to maintain orderliness in the worship service. Still, it can have an application to family life in the Christian home.
Our God is a God of order—be it in the way we worship, the orderliness of the laws of science, or the order in the home. God established order in the family when he created a structure for family life. Fathers are the heads of households. The father shares this role with his wife, and they are responsible for the running of the home. Parents are in charge. They carry out their responsibility out of love for their Lord and their children. Knowing this order in the family creates a feeling of stability and a sense of security for children.
Which of the following two scenarios best describes your home?
(1) Just as the supper dishes are lifted from the table, books take their place and are arranged by little hands impatient to go to work. Minutes later the only sounds are the faint scratching of pencil lead and a child’s voice tinged with awe as he or she shares some newly discovered tidbit of knowledge.
(2) As the supper dishes are lifted from the table, the word homework triggers the start of a verbal wrestling match as your child whines and argues and deflects every encouragement to get the work done or whines for help in solving every problem.
Some children seem to naturally love school and enjoy doing the work. Others see school as a chore and are easily frustrated with it. Most children probably fall somewhere between these two extremes.
Favorable attitudes need careful nurturing. The Bible tells us, “Pleasant words promote instruction” (Proverbs 16:21). Here are nine worthwhile ideas to help parents put that truth into practice.
So, parent of an infant or toddler, what are you doing to help your child make lots of neural connections these days? Maybe you need to learn more about what you can do to help your child develop those all-important neural connections that bring about learning.
Neuroscience studies the brain and how it functions. It explains that through the workings of billions of nerve cells with trillions of connections, the brain receives stimuli, processes it, remembers a lot of it, and produces learning. Neuroscience demonstrates the complexity of the human mind and the wonder of God’s creation. It supports what the psalmist observed for us long ago: “I praise [God] because I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). Continue reading
A death in the family can provide parents with a wonderful opportunity. What better time to teach your children the story of God’s love for all people? The gospel brings great comfort at such a time—comfort that every Christian sooner or later learns to appreciate at the death of a believer.
There are all sorts of clinical reasons why people die; there is only one real cause of death: sin. “The wages of sin is death . . .” But death is not an end. Because of God’s great love for all people, Jesus came into the world to forgive sins and lead the way to eternal life in heaven. “. . . but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 6:23). Continue reading
They know it’s wrong. They have learned it’s harmful. Why, then, do children still choose to experiment with drugs and alcohol?
Think of a hungry lion, stalking its prey—the weak and vulnerable—those who wander from the group. The beast selects a target and waits. That is how Satan operates (1 Peter 5:8). Our children are unprotected when it comes to dealing with the temptation to experiment with drugs and alcohol. Continue reading
The questions begin when a child is about a year old: At what age should I begin potty training? Does a difficult experience cause emotional damage? What if my child refuses to be trained? These are common concerns. First-time parents find them particularly worrisome.
God’s Word does not talk specifically about potty training, of course. But that doesn’t mean we can’t apply some biblical principles in general terms. The Bible does remind us, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). The body grows and develops according to a set pattern that God determines. With children, the bones grow, muscles develop, and thinking matures all according to his plan. Continue reading
Christian parents show love for their children by providing for their spiritual needs. They teach their children about Jesus—his loving sacriﬁce on Calvary to win salvation for them. And they discipline their children, using God’s Word to guide and direct behavior.
Giving time and attention to your children also shows your love for them. Parents need to be involved, spend time with their children, talk and listen to them, share their dreams and ideas. Some people promote the idea that the quality of the time spent together will make up for not spending much time together. Children need both, quality time and a large quantity of it. Continue reading